Here is the virtually unknown reason why you should never tell anyone about your plans no matter what…
So, you have this amazing idea for yourself and you do all the research and preparation in your head of what it’s going to be like.
You imagine this amazing idea transforming your life and making you and others proud, so you go to the people you think are the best option to talk to…
Your friends, family, and, acquaintances.
You’re all sitting at the dinner table and you muster up the courage to say “Mum, Dad. I want to start (Whatever your amazing idea is) what do you think?”.
Now in your head, you get the love and support you could ask for to get started “Oh that’s an amazing idea sweetie you go for it, we’ll help all the way!”
Well, that’s what you were thinking would come out of your friends, family, and acquaintances mouth right?
But in reality, it goes a little like this…
“Oh, that sounds risky.”
“I’m not sure you’re ready for that “
“You’re too young. “
“You’re too old. “
“You don’t have enough experience. “
“Why don’t you focus on your studies. “
“That would never work! “
“I don’t see you doing that. “
“I don’t approve. “
“What about… “
“You can’t do it. “
“I think you need to calm down. “
“Why don’t you be more realistic.”
Now after you have been rained down upon with negativity you go back and start to doubt yourself “What if they’re right, maybe I’m not good enough, maybe I’m not ready!”
Does that ring a bell to you? Because it sure did for me when I wanted to start my online business, everyone had their two cents to put in about how I should do things like they’re some kind of expert.
The only problem is that they’re your friends, family, and acquaintances, you can’t just tell them to F*** off, can you?
How do you solve this?
It’s pretty easy and it’s called shutting your mouth! I know that’s a bit harsh but it’s true, you won’t believe the number of times just not telling someone something can save you, it’s almost like a superpower.
However, there is scientific reasoning as to why, and it’s got to do with how the brain feels about talking.
It’s almost like you get a good feeling about telling people about what you’re going to do, which gives you a false sense of accomplishment, this could lead to you not achieving what you once said you would.
This video goes into further detail about the study of why you shouldn’t tell people about your goals. By Thomas Frank Called Why You Shouldn’t Tell People About Your Goals – College Info Geek.
But what if I’ve already told them?
This isn’t easy for everyone, but the answer would be to hold it in and let them speak, I know it’s not the answer you want to hear, but, that’s the harsh truth.
This requires tough skin to withstand the constant teasing and questioning you’re going to get in the future but as an entrepreneur, this is something you can’t run away from forever.
Just remember they love you and want the best for you, but that doesn’t mean they’re qualified, or understand what you’re doing.
Just say to them thank you but that’s not for me, and just keep on going, maybe they’ll understand when you finally show them how rich and successful you are.
So, what are you trying to say Adventago that I don’t ask for help?!
No, what I’m trying to say is ask yourself these three questions.
1. The first question. Does the person I’m talking to understand what I’m doing?
For example, if you’re talking about becoming a sprinter and you’re right in front of Usain Bolt, then he’s definitely someone you want to listen to.
However, if you’re sitting in front of the fat guy at McDonald’s who says you aren’t fit enough, then maybe you should look elsewhere for advice.
2. The second question. Is the person willing to listen to what you have to say?
What this means is when you’re trying to argue your reason why you want to do something are, they trying to shut you up and constantly say you’re stupid for no reason?
If the answer is yes, then why are you bothering with their opinion? A lot of weak-minded people take this to heart, please don’t be one of those people.
3. The third and final question you must ask yourself. Is this person just an absolute idiot?
I know this sounds weird, but we all know someone who speaks absolute rubbish or doesn’t have your best interest in mind.
The best way to deal with this kind of person is to just ignore them, I know a lot of you want to prove how smart you are, but the real winner is the one who doesn’t even get involved in those types of worthless arguments.
IN CLOSING
It can be scary to go for your goals alone, but that’s the journey you’re going to have to take for a little while.
But don’t worry you will find like-minded people who support what you do and can help you achieve your goals.
All I’m saying is that you have to be careful who you tell your goals to at the start, so you don’t kill your dreams before they even get started.
Also, believe in yourself more, if you’re trying to look for people to give you the confirmation to get going then you may never find it, you need to be more confident in yourself, and give yourself the green light to push forward.
Remember this saying…
“Loose lips sink ships.”
– The War Advertising Council
Here is something I want to leave you with, this video puts into summary why you should never tell anyone about your goals no matter what.
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