Be a lone wolf, walk your own path, and do what you want to do. (Mindset)

Go to school, get good grades, get a job, work for years, and maybe when your old and wrinkly you can retire.

Son, I want you to be this, daughter I want you to be that, oh you’re not successful if you don’t have this, why can’t you be more like…? blah blah blah.

Everyone has their perception of who you should be as if they’re the ones who know better about your own life and happiness.

It’s everywhere you go, especially on social media where everyone is giving this false life that they are living.

Can you remember a time when someone acted like they had something, but deep down you knew they were flat out lying?

But, the horrible thing is that this gets to people’s heads, then, they start doing things they never did before just to impress people.

A great example of this is when financial education platforms say people buy things they can’t afford, with money they don’t have, just to impress people they don’t even know, or like.

It’s getting to the point where people are even getting depressed because they can’t keep up with what people see of them.

This is something that really upsets me, to know that there a tonne of people that are living day in and day out, wearing this pretend mask on themselves, just to cover up their real life.

The hard thing is that we have been raised with this kind of mindset to try and impress others, I remember the times my family would be auguring like crazy but the moment a guest comes over we were this big happy family.

It seemed harmless back then, but, these kinds of things are what’s gotten us to believe that our original self isn’t good enough.

This is why you could go on a date with someone, and makeup lies, just to impress the other person, unfortunately, this happens way too often in every aspect of life.

Even when starting to be an entrepreneur, did you have people who were telling you what you should do instead? How about the dreaded phrase…

“I don’t see you doing that”.

How on earth can you say that, can you read the future? The answer is no, but the reason why someone says that is because the other person’s perception of you is that you aren’t capable of doing such a goal.

Which is fine for the other person to think, but once they start putting you down that’s when the line gets crossed.

This is damaging to our mindset, due to us trying to wear multiple hats and trying to please everyone, if you do this for too long, you begin to forget who you truly are, then one day you look in the mirror and say…

Who am I?

This is where I go against the system and say this to you…

IT’S OK TO BE SELFISH

That’s right I said it, and I’m not taking it back, there are times where you have to do things for your own benefit.

How many times are you going to say in your head “But I wanted to…” Come on now! stop having people back seat drive your life.

You’re the one with the steering wheel in your hand, now start driving your life to success and not other people’s opinions.

Being selfish at times doesn’t mean you’re evil, it only means you have self-love and know deep down that you are proud of what you accomplish.

In addition, you’re actually being very generous because you’re giving whatever skill you have to the world, instead of letting it die in your head, just because some loser said something rude about your idea.

Here’s a video by Dan Lok that talks about how you aren’t a jerk for prioritizing yourself over others.

See there is no need to worry do you feel a little better now? As entrepreneurs, we know there are always going to be people who love and hate us it’s just part of life, at least you can put those people aside and focus on yourself in times like that.

BUT ADVENTAGO IT’S MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY WHAT CAN I DO ?

I understand your struggle, I felt the same way too, when I told my mum and dad that I wanted to start an online business, they were not the biggest fans.

I would constantly hear them saying things like “Why don’t you focus on something else,” “That’s just risky why can’t you just get a job like the rest of us,“ “I don’t think you’re ready for that.”

As an entrepreneur, you probably know the feeling of having to put yourself at the front of the line to achieve the goals you’re aiming for.

Which is nothing to feel guilty about, you’re simply having a little me time for your own sanity, I would recommend you start doing this.

This is going to be a hard pill to swallow but the answer is, go without them, I know it may sound scary and rude but it’s your life, and eventually your friends and family have to understand that you can stand on your own two feet.

Yes, this may mean there are parts of your journey as an entrepreneur that you will feel alone, but you’re simply pushing through the mud.

And when you get out and show how successful you are, others will be amazed to see that you proved them wrong.

Your family and friends may not understand, support, or believe you have what it takes, but the real question I have for you is, can you see in yourself that you can achieve your desires?

If the answer is yes, then get rid of the insecurities you have of trying to be liked by everyone and push forward!

I’M BUSY RIGHT NOW SO I’M SCROLLING QUICKLY THROUGH YOUR BLOG CAN YOU TELL THE SHORT ANSWER?

Really, you’re one of those people? Well, it’s ok, I’ll give you an easy way to remember…

BE A LONE WOLF!

There are times when you’re going to have to take paths on your own in life, and as much as you hear the noise of others telling how you should live your life you need to ignore them, also you need to get rid of trying to be someone that you aren’t.

Stop trying to impress people by acting a certain way, that deep down you aren’t comfortable with, you’re special in your own way, don’t be ashamed of that, embrace it.

Here’s a great quote that you should remember…

I watched this video ages ago, maybe you’ll like it too, click here to have a watch…

WAS THERE A TIME WHEN SOMEONE GOT EXPOSED FOR BEING FAKE? SHARE YOUR STORY IN THE COMMENT SECTION BELOW.